Is it really your fault?

by Janaki Chitta | Mar 24, 2023 | Learnings

Is it really your fault?

As children, many of us learn to internalize blame and feel responsible for things beyond our control.

But the truth is, everyone blames others for things they’re ashamed of, including ourselves.

We must recognize that unless we are explicitly taught otherwise, we may continue to believe that we are responsible for things that are not our fault. This can lead to a perpetual cycle of self-blame and self-defense.

In case you haven’t read the above sentence properly –

EVERYONE blames others for things they’re ashamed of, including OURSELVES.

However, it’s important to step back and ask ourselves if we are truly responsible when someone tells us something or if we feel like we are being blamed.

Our worst fault is our preocuupation with the faults of others

We must question how much of what we feel is really our fault. Acknowledging our feelings and saying what we need to say is okay.

So, how can we cope?

Before going to sleep, we should take a moment to question things we felt were our fault during the day (or whatever you can recollect from memory)

If we believe it is, we can work to improve ourselves.
But if we know deep down that it’s not our fault, we should remember that it’s not our fault this time.

Most importantly, what really helps, in my experience, is not trying to explain ourselves to others after this self-discovery. This gives us strength and allows us to act from a place of love and kindness.

Empathy and compassion towards ourselves and others can go a long way in breaking the cycle of blaming ourselves and others.

The Power of Acceptance: Embracing Our Imperfections

by Janaki Chitta | Feb 17, 2023 | Spirituality

The Power of Acceptance: Embracing Our Imperfections

As someone who is constantly seeking personal growth and challenges, it can be difficult to take a step back and simply accept ourselves for who we are.

We often find ourselves plagued by thoughts of inadequacy and self-doubt, but what if we practised acceptance instead?

Rather than fighting or questioning these negative thoughts, it’s important to recognize that every quality has its good and bad aspects.

By embracing our imperfections, we can begin to recognize the value that they bring to our lives.

Learning to love ourselves as we are can be a truly life-changing experience.

Let’s all practice acceptance and embrace our imperfections, for they are what make us unique and valuable individuals.

Financial Responsibility: The key to Empowerment and Independence

by Janaki Chitta | Feb 10, 2023 | Lifestyle

Financial Responsibility: The key to Empowerment and Independence

As women, we often dream of a life filled with love, happiness, and financial stability.

A regular scene in my childhood is my mom while cooking a lovely dinner that always smelled of amazing indian spices

Get a job. You will be an independent woman and can get anything you want in life.

I got a job and am also happily married. But I did not feel powerful.

Can anyone else relate to this and ever wondered why!!!

It was a different flavour of helplessness my mother felt.

We’ve all grown up with certain beliefs about money and relationships. But, have you ever stopped to question if these beliefs are actually holding us back from having authentic connections with our loved ones? The truth is, having a healthy relationship with money and freedom can have a positive impact on our personal relationships.

The reason I tell you this is because

There’s one more important aspect of financial independence that we often overlook:

RESPONSIBILITY

While getting a job is a critical step, it’s just the beginning. Here are few steps to live our dream life.

Have healthy boundaries:

Remember, no one else can decide how your hard-earned income is spent. It’s up to you to make the choices that will shape your financial future.

Communication is key. Have respect but be clear and precise about your opinions and decisions.

Be responsible with your money:

Choose to spend money on what you love, plan your savings, and take control of your financial future.

Accountability is key!!

Be financially literate:

Financial literacy is a skill that takes time to develop, but the rewards are worth it. Unfortunately, financial literacy is not taught in schools, so it’s up to us to learn from other sources.

By becoming financially literate, we can make informed decisions about how to spend and save our hard-earned income and avoid falling victim to financial abuse.

Have Fun!

Remember, the intention is freedom, joy, independence and satisfaction. This is fun.

This is a journey and it’s FUN!!!

The Dark Side of Humility: Challenging the Power Dynamic

by Janaki Chitta | Feb 3, 2023 | Spirituality

The Dark Side of Humility: Challenging the Power Dynamic

Introduction:

Humility is often considered as a virtue, but in practice, it can have negative consequences. This post explores the power dynamic of humility and how it can affect relationships and self-confidence.

The Power Dynamic of Humility:

The famous quote by C.S. Lewis, “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less,” highlights the issue with the traditional definition of humility.

By thinking of ourselves less,

We can develop low self-esteem
It can lead to submissiveness and a lack of authenticity.
And, can create an unhealthy power dynamic in relationships as it can lead to submissiveness

Practice Gratitude instead:

A better approach is to maintain a sense of gratitude while avoiding submissiveness. This creates a more equal dynamic in relationships and promotes authenticity and freedom.

Conclusion:

Humility is an important aspect of personal growth and happiness, but it is crucial to challenge the power dynamic that often comes with it.

By focusing on gratitude and avoiding submissiveness, we can maintain a healthy balance in our relationships and promote personal growth and happiness.